We were trailblazers in the “free love” movement, and have a long history of enjoying long-term, successful relationships between guys who both “play for the same team.” If you connect with someone, don’t immediately assume that your perceived sexual “incompatibility” is a deal-breaker. The concept of non-monogamy might not be something you’re ready to think about right now, but at some point you will discover an awesome part of gay male culture: We are masters of nontraditional, non-monogamous, polyamorous, and “open” relationships. I love fucking him, and he loves fucking me, but sometimes (often) we both prefer to get fucked - and we do, by other guys. I discuss these risks and how to protect yourself in part two of this guide. Learning about those risks and taking the necessary steps to minimize them (protecting yourself and playing smartly) gives you the freedom to enjoy bottoming without fear. All sex - bottoming, topping, sucking, handjobs - involves risk. In cultural discourse, HIV is widely associated with my community - so much so that many beginners who want to try bottoming refrain from doing so because they think it’s an extremely dangerous, high-risk activity. I’m a man who has sex with men, including trans men, and I see transgender women and queer people of color as essential members of my LGBTQ+ family.
